Are you a carer? The term carer can be misunderstood, misleading or confused with someone who provides care professionally, such as a personal care assistant. So what is a carer? Someone who, without pay, spends time supporting or helping someone who is ill, needs extra support or has a life limiting condition. Most people just think of themselves as doing what any daughter, mother, brother, father, sister, friend or neighbour would and should do. Caring is not always a choice and difficulties can go unrecognised with many carers struggling silently, not knowing what help is available to them.